How Helping Yourself Can Help Your Child

Children absorb the emotional world of their parents. When we begin to heal our own stress and worries, our children feel lighter too. Your healing becomes their peace.

When children struggle with sleep, digestion, or anxiety, it’s often not just their burden—it’s a reflection of the emotional world around them. Children are sponges, deeply connected to their parents. I’ve seen the most profound change not by “fixing” the child, but when parents begin to heal themselves. As the parent grows lighter, calmer, and more present, the child naturally shifts too. Healing yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child.

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Over the years, I’ve had parents come to me with concerns about their children—sleeping problems, digestive discomfort, anxiety, or simply not feeling settled. Often, the request is for me to “fix” the child. But what I’ve discovered, time and again, is something much more profound: children are sponges.

From the moment they are born (and even before, while in the womb), children absorb the emotional world around them. They don’t yet have the words to explain what they feel, but they feel it deeply. They sense stress, fear, joy, and calm with incredible accuracy—especially from their mother or primary caretaker.

Healing yourself becomes the quiet shift that brings your child peace.

Children love us so much that they reflect what is unbalanced within us. They aren’t trying to cause problems—they are showing us, with unconditional love, where healing is needed. And when parents take this step, something extraordinary happens: both parent and child are transformed.

So if your child is struggling and you feel lost, losing patience, or unsure what to do—pause for a moment. Ask yourself: what if I took care of myself? What if I gave myself the time, attention, and healing that perhaps no one gave me when I was young?

The gift you give yourself will ripple out into your child’s life. By freeing yourself, you free them too.